Men and Their Mixed Signals.

It can be pretty confusing when your other half (OH) is giving you mixed signals about trying to conceive (TTC) and it can get really frustrating. I've heard a lot of women saying that one minute their OH is one board with TTC and the next minute they can't be bothered and start making excuses not to try.

The best thing to do is simply sit down and chat and know where both of you stand with the matter. It may even be a good idea to decide to use the "not trying, not preventing" (NTNP) method to TTC because then your OH may not feel like he's plunging himself in to something he's not too sure about. The NTNP method can be really effective because it's more like your letting everything happen naturally instead of really going out of your way to TTC. I think many men would prefer this and would be much more comfortable with the idea of TTC this way.

The issue with men is that they may get excited about having a baby, but then the next minute they realise how much it will affect their life and how much things will change. It's then easy for them to start thinking of all the negatives of having a baby (stress, crying, finance, sleepless nights etc.) instead of the positives. Reassure him and maybe draw out a clear cut plan for him to see that it won't be all bad and in fact it will probably be the best thing that's ever happened to him.

Just remember not to get upset by your OH's fluctuating mind and try not to get angry or frustrated with him - stress isn't good for you.